Learning to Let Go

There comes a time in our lives when we realise that holding on to the past, or to a future outcome no longer serves us. Usually this realisation is brought on by a whole heap of pain. Often our expectations of how things should have worked out, or our fears about that past experience will repeat itself over and over in our minds.

Although we are told, now is the only moment we ever have, so many of us are stuck in another timeline. This approach doesn’t only render us asleep in our waking state, it is such a needless waste of energy. Energy that we could be using for good, by directing it towards the realisation of our dreams.

We talk about this concept of flow.

This idea that when you surrender you enter a sort of slip stream of life. A river current that gently carries you through life in your desired direction.

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When we are out of flow, it is likened to swimming against the rapids. No matter how much we thrash around, or how great a swimmer we think we are, the current will always win. Carrying us down to the shallow banks below.

It’s funny as I write this, it seems completely logical to surrender and let go. When I compare it to the flow of a river it makes perfect sense to let life lead the way. However as i’m sure many of you will agree, that’s easier said than done.

When your in the midst of an experience with so many emotions involved things can get messy. Our ego tells us that by trying to control the situation it will ultimately work out for the best. And we have to give it a shot right? This time it’ll be different? If you don’t try you don’t know, and so on and so on.

Don’t play the victim anymore.

We all have been victim to this approach for far too long. Perhaps it is something that takes our whole lives to master. I mean that’s why we’re hear right, to learn the lessons we set out to achieve. If we could complete them all in a short amount of time, there wouldn’t be any reason to live a whole life time. We could just be in and out of here in a matter of years.

I think the fact that despite our inner knowing. Despite the voice of our intuition, we still have free will. We can choose how we step up to each challenge. And more often than not, we chose to take the hard path. And I don’t think we even do this consciously, it really does often seems like the best thing to do (at the time).

We’ve been taught for so long, that struggle and strife equates to results. And yes that is one approach that has worked, to a certain extent, for a very long time.

What if we were doing it all wrong? What if  everything you’ve ever dreamed of is only a slipstream away?

Sounds too good to be true right? But for many on the path, this truth is becoming a reality.

That’s not to say there won’t be challenges along the way.

Believe me when you’re in flow there are still as many twists and turns, and forks on the road. The difference is in the way you respond to these obstacles.

A word that has been swirling around in my mind these last couple of days is detachment. In Buddhism detachment is non-attachment to everything, and yes that is one approach. However I no longer identify with extremes. Nothing is as black and white as that. We have to try and find a balance in all that we do.

Why should we detach ourselves from the beauty of nature, or the magic of music and art, or even the joys of fun and play with our loved ones and friends. We need these things in our lives more than ever before. Yes we shouldn’t have too much fun all of the time, but what kind of life would it be if we deprived ourselves of all the good stuff.

For me detachment is about how you deal with the shit.

When things don’t quite go your way. When you’ve been triggered, or hurt because you thought someone would behave differently, or that you would never have treated someone this way. To detach from this is true empowerment.

If we can truly master how we deal with this, we will have mastered our whole life. And let’s be honest it is going to take practise, and whole heap of doing it wrong before we get there, but it can be done.

It takes three weeks to change a habit, three whole weeks. In a life that spans on average 70.5 years!? Come on people, we can do it. WE REALLY BLOODY CAN!

So why not think about what’s been bothering you today. And rather than thinking of who is to blame, or how you should have done things differently, why not practise the art of letting go, and let the universe gently carry you down stream to your ultimate destination. Because trust me when I say this, the destination is ultimately where we really want to be.

G x


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